The Women's Business Momentum Centre http://womensbusinessmomentum.net Wed, 01 Jan 2014 08:00:13 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.2 Sarah Grear – Featured Member January 2014 http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2014/01/01/sarah-grear-featured-member-january-2014/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2014/01/01/sarah-grear-featured-member-january-2014/#comments Wed, 01 Jan 2014 08:00:13 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3113 Member Spotlight January 2014

How did you get started in business?

I was bitten by the travel blogging bug in 2009. My award-winning writing got me fired up about sharing stories online.
In 2010 I was working as an art installer for museums throughout Los Angeles (and blogging by night). Then I unexpectedly got pregnant. I was on maternity leave and the Science Center wanted me to come back to help with the Endeavor Shuttle project.
I decided to quit my job, so I could run a home-based business. I took my love for writing online and became a copywriter. That choice was so big, but I am beyond happy with my decision. I have been able to support my family and be home with my son.
I feel confident that I can build a kick ass copywriting business, raise my family the way I want to raise them, and with today’s technology I really can have it all!

What have been some of your biggest challenges and how have you overcome them?

The biggest challenge as an entrepreneur is the high and low income months. When you’re new in business you are still finding out about how difficult it can be to get your business off the ground. I am able to get through those challenges by remembering what I am grateful for every day.

What is your big vision right now?

My big vision is to create a profitable copywriting business over the next three years. I envision that 80% of my business will come from online customers that use my webinars to create their own copy. I would also like to travel to Canada, Hawaii, and Australia to present live writing workshops.

Tell us a little about your WHY and what it means to you?

I want everyone to be seen and truly heard for their greatness, so we can create positive change in the world. This means I get to know each person’s story intimately while helping them to amplify their voice.

What would be a perfect referral for you?

A perfect referral for me would be a business, relationship, or health coach.

What is your favorite book that has helped you in life/business?

My favorite book is Committed by Elizabeth Gilbert. She is so candid and has a saucy outlook on life. We need more women like her sharing their stories.

Committed

Committed by Elizabeth Gilbert

The #1 New York Times bestselling follow-up to Eat, Pray, Love–an intimate and erudite celebration of love. At the end of her memoir Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert fell in love with Felipe, a Brazilian living in Indonesia. The couple swore eternal love, but also swore (as skittish divorce survivors) never to marry. However, providence intervened in the form of a U.S. government ultimatum: get married, or Felipe could never enter America again. Told with Gilbert’s trademark humor and intelligence, this fascinating meditation on compatibility and fidelity chronicles Gilbert’s complex and sometimes frightening journey into second marriage, and will enthrall the millions of readers who made Eat, Pray, Love a number one bestseller.

What are three tips you would give to your fellow business owners out there?

  1. Come from a place of abundance and not scarcity with your mindset.
  2. Let no come from other places, not yourself.
  3. You truly deserve to be seen and heard for your greatness.

How has being a Momentum PRO Member helped you and what do you get out of your membership?

As a creative writer, I began attending the WBMC events one year ago. Marianne has created a safe, fun environment where women can support each other. I am so grateful for all the friendships I have formed with WBMC members. This is invaluable, and the experience Marianne has created at every event I have attended has been warm, exhilarating, and inviting.

Sarah Grear
Creative Custom Writing Inc.
www.sarahgrear.com

Email: sarah@sarahgrear.com

 

 

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Alana Sheeren – Dec. 2013 Guest Post: Q&A http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/12/12/alana-sheeren-dec-2013-guest-post-qa/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/12/12/alana-sheeren-dec-2013-guest-post-qa/#comments Thu, 12 Dec 2013 20:01:00 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3010 Q: My mom died two years ago and it’s been really hard for me to function at a high level in my life and business since then. Every time I think I’m over it, something happens and the emotions get triggered again. What am I doing wrong?

A: Chances are you’re not doing anything wrong. There are a lot of myths about grief in our culture and one of them is that the first year is the hardest. Sometimes, for some people, this is true. Often the second, or third year, is harder because the reality of your loss sinks in more deeply. It’s also normal for your sadness and grief to come up over and over again. I like to think of the grief journey, and life in general, as a spiral – we’re never in exactly the same place twice but as we round a corner, we’ll find ourselves in a situation where emotions are triggered so they can be felt and released on a deeper level. At those times, the most important thing you can do is stop any self-talk that makes you wrong, and treat yourself with extra care.

It’s also quite normal to feel so changed by a death, loss or traumatic event that you never feel quite like the old you again. That’s okay and you can get to a place where you feel even better than you did before, without diminishing the memory of your loved one. If you feel that you’re truly stuck, and not functioning well in your life or business, it might be time to seek support. Grief and loss support groups are helpful, or a therapist or coach who is experienced with grief is a good option. Whatever you do, remember to listen to your internal wisdom. Grief isn’t something we “get over” and it doesn’t move in a linear, stage-like fashion, contrary to popular belief.

Q: I’m pretty good at keeping my emotions under control but some days it feels like they control me. How do I stop that from happening?

A: Ideally you wouldn’t feel like you have to control your emotions, or feel controlled by them. We are emotional beings so in attempting to suppress your feelings, you’re squashing big energy that will continue to live in your body if it’s not released.
It can be scary to have big feelings wash over us, but they tend to pass in 15-20 minutes. It’s when your mind gets involved and tells you there’s something wrong or bad about what’s happening, or you make yourself into a victim, that your emotions hang around and wreak havoc. Holding them at bay and not letting yourself feel them is problematic too, as they tend to come out in other surprising ways.

See if you can begin to find a safe place to experience your feelings when they come up. One client of mine would go sit in the back of the warehouse her office was in and cry for 15 minutes when her grief surfaced. Then she’d be able to go back to work feeling lighter and more capable of navigating her day. Getting comfortable with your big emotions will take practice but as you do, you’ll notice that you fear them less. They might never feel easy to experience, but you’ll get more familiar with them and you’ll know, “Okay, this will feel awful for the next 20 minutes and then I’ll feel better until the next wave hits.” If they’re sticking around longer than that, it’s a clue that you’re telling yourself a story that is keeping you stuck in the feeling and then you can gently and lovingly take a look at that.

 

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Alana Sheeren – Nov. 2013 Guest Post: Money http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/11/14/alana-sheeren-nov-2013-guest-post-money/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/11/14/alana-sheeren-nov-2013-guest-post-money/#comments Thu, 14 Nov 2013 20:01:04 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3008 Do you wake up feeling anxious about what’s in your bank account, or grateful? Do you spend time daydreaming about “when you have money” or do you embrace the idea that you have enough, even if you’re not earning quite as much as you think you need? If your money were a girlfriend, would you be besties, on the outs or tentative new friends, unsure of which direction your relationship will go?

There are people for whom making money has never been a problem. I have friends like this. They’ve always had it and they expect it to appear in their lives. They’re not afraid to charge what they’re worth and there are always people willing to pay it. They own big homes and nice cars, but aren’t attached to them. There’s no sense of grasping, or clinging.  They work hard and are smart with their finances but money is a side note to their lives.

For the rest of us, money can be a deeply emotional issue. We have so much conditioning around money, so many unspoken and unexamined beliefs. And as entrepreneurs, we’ve traded the security of a steady monthly paycheck for the opportunity to make our dreams come true.

If you’re someone who has unresolved feelings about money (i.e. you’re not BFF’s yet), take a few moments, grab a journal and a cup of tea and answer the following questions:

How would you like your relationship with money to feel?

What are your big money dreams? What would you do with it if you had that kind of income? What would THAT feel like?

What would make you feel secure, if you’re not there already? Get concrete about numbers and then see if you can access the feeling. How would that feeling of security change your daily life?

See if you can practice experiencing any or all of those feelings now. You can make a vision board, post a picture, write a few words or come up with a short mantra (i.e. I am fully supported and all my needs are met) that help you access those emotions when you’re feeling money stress.  As you take action in your business, the more you feel good about money, the more money you’ll draw into your life.  Be gentle as you go – recreating your relationship with money can take time.

One last thing to think about: Baking philanthropy into your business plan is a great way to shift your money energy, give back in a consistent way and make your product or service more attractive to others.  To quote Henry David Thoreau, Goodness is the only investment that never fails.

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Jeanette Chasworth – Featured Member November 2013 http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/11/01/jeanette-chasworth-featured-member-november-2013/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/11/01/jeanette-chasworth-featured-member-november-2013/#comments Fri, 01 Nov 2013 07:00:53 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3104 Member Spotlight November 2013



How did you get started in business?

I have always loved furniture, even as a kid. I also loved reading and studying characters and what made them tick. I studied literature in college and fell in love with “the story”. My mom also loved to move furniture and change things around the house. Many a weekend was spent changing things. After a brief career in publishing, I discovered interior design and fell in love. I had all the aspects of literature I loved but it also added FURNITURE. I was in love and never looked back. I learned how to tell my client’s story through their home and give them a good foundation for their life.

What have been some of your biggest challenges and how have you overcome them?

Owning a business is a path of self discovery. I think that it a continual challenge of seeing who you really are and what you really believe in. It’s a tough path at times but you just gotta keep going forward. My biggest challenge has been marketing the more subtle aspects of what makes me different than other designers. While others can make things pretty, what I do is more personal and transformational. I overcame it by continuing to try different ways to discuss it and hiring a coach that helped me find the right words. I still play with it but it’s all about being honest about what you really do and being able to see it.

What is your big vision right now?

To create my own paint color line. To have thousands of people on my email list, sell 10,000 books and to transform as many lives as possible with the power of color.

Tell us a little about your WHY and what it means to you?

I know what an incredible effect our homes have on us and it truly can change lives. I love the transformation, finding the hidden beauty and letting it shine. I tell the story of you through your home. I love to write and understand characters. Most of us don’t see the real light within us and I love pulling that out and revealing it. Change can open up many new possibilities that are full of excitement.

What would be a perfect referral for you?

My perfect referral is someone who is rediscovering their lives. Often this is after the death of a loved one or other big change in someone’s life. Your home is a reflection of who you are and as your life changes so does your home. I find the hidden beauty in the home and also unleash the hidden beauty in my client because the home is a reflection not only of who they are but who they want to be. The home reflects the client’s energy and builds on it leaving the client feeling hugged by their home every time they walk through the door.

What is your favorite book that has helped you in life/business?

I LOVE to read. and you want me to pick one book….I think for me, it would be Donald Kaufman COLOR because his approach to color changed my life.

Product Details

 

COLOR by Donald Kaufman

The first lifestyle book to show groups of colors inspired by nature and how they work on the interior walls of 26 homes. Kaufman’s colors are distinctive in that they are designed to capture the nuances of color in nature. The authors reveal their paint-mixing techniques, and recipes for five neutral Donald Kaufman paints are included. Illustrations.

What are three tips you would give to your fellow business owners out there?

  1. Try something new
  2. Take a chance
  3. Own that special spark that makes you wonderful.

How has being a Momentum PRO Member helped you and what do you get out of your membership?

Being part of Her Story was incredible. When I first realized what I had to talk about I didn’t think there was anything in my world worthy enough of the topic. It made me really look at my life and see it in a different way. I was surprised at how emotional I got on the stage and even more surprised by how many people were touched by what I said. Several people later said I brought them to tears and I didn’t realize my story was that powerful. Just because it’s “normal” to us doesn’t mean it isn’t inspirational.

Jeanette Chasworth
The Color Whisperer
www.thecolorwhisperer.com

Phone: 626-485-6354
Email: Jeanette@thecolorwhisperer.com

 

 

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Alana Sheeren – Oct. 2013 Guest Post: Three Ways to Separate Yourself from the Crowd http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/10/10/alana-sheeren-oct-2013-guest-post-three-ways-to-separate-yourself-from-the-crowd/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/10/10/alana-sheeren-oct-2013-guest-post-three-ways-to-separate-yourself-from-the-crowd/#comments Thu, 10 Oct 2013 19:01:36 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3006 Being a good human being is good business. ~ Paul Hawken

Know your superpowers. You are the only you in the world. This means you are the only you in your chosen field. You don’t need to be ground-breakingly original, you just need to be you. Use your strengths. If you’re not sure, take a strengths assessment and find out. The things that come most easily to you, that you take for granted, are often what make you most helpful to someone else.

It’s also useful to know what your kryptonite is. For example, one of my superpowers is a massive ability to be a container for other people’s big emotions. This makes me really good at what I do. It also means I have to carefully monitor my intake of tragedy from other sources (like the news), and that I’ve had to learn grounding and releasing techniques so I don’t walk through my life carrying other people’s pain.

Note: Once you know your superpowers, it’s helpful to let others in on the secret.  Share it in your sales copy, on your business card or in your bio. Wear it on a t-shirt. Let the world in on how awesome you are!

Deliver excellence. Focus on what you’re the most passionate about. Simplify your offerings so you can dive deeper with each one, or step up and go full service.  Plan fun surprises for your clients in ways that make you light up inside.  Take the class, read the book, work with that coach, as long as you continue to be yourself and trust your instincts along the way. (Don’t use learning as an excuse to not fully show up in your business!)

Remember excellence is not perfection. You’re allowed to be human. Be the best one you can be in the moment and you’ll stand out from the crowd.

Have fun. This seems obvious but when we are our own business, it’s easy to get caught up in the seriousness of bringing money in. Start your workday by listening to your current favorite song. Celebrate your little wins with a booty shaking dance break. Make having fun part of your business plan. A sense of play will help you through the rough patches and it’s contagious. When people see you having fun and spreading lightness, they’ll want some for themselves. And you can happy dance all the way to the bank.

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Alana Sheeren – Sept. 2013 Guest Post: Powerfully Presenting Yourself http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/09/12/alana-sheeren-sept-2013-guest-post-powerfully-presenting-yourself/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/09/12/alana-sheeren-sept-2013-guest-post-powerfully-presenting-yourself/#comments Thu, 12 Sep 2013 19:01:49 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3004 It takes courage for a person to listen to their own goodness and act on it.~ Pablo Casals

There are certain people who catch your attention when they walk into a room, or move in to shake your hand, or step onto a stage to speak. These people walk with ease, a quiet confidence and a way of drawing you in that some might call charisma, and others might see as a kindness or generosity of spirit.

These people might be funny, or serious, they might touch your heart or inspire you to action. Whatever they do, they make it look easy. They don’t have to do a song and dance, or jump up and down to keep you focused and attentive. They are, in essence, masterful.

10 steps to cultivate the air of a master:

  1. Know yourself. Be honest about your strengths and weaknesses. Become familiar with your emotions so they don’t throw you off balance when they appear. For example, in an effort to keep us safe, shame often arises when we are about to step out of our comfort zone and into our brilliance. Learn how to work with your fear. Really knowing who you are frees you up to stop trying to be someone you’re not.

  2. Accept yourself. Know that you are imperfect, messy, and human. This is exactly as it’s meant to be. When you stop forcing yourself to change and begin to accept who you are in this moment, you give yourself freedom to grow.

  3. Like yourself. This isn’t about boosting your ego. It’s about being your own friend, treating yourself with kindness and believing you are worthy of the good things you have and those that will come. Because you are.

  4. Take care of yourself. Get enough rest. Eat well. Live healthfully. Give yourself time to do the things you love. Stop playing hostage to the tyranny of urgency and invest in your long term well being.

  5. Love what you do. If you don’t, then make a plan stop doing it, or find things to love about it. You might not love everything about running your business, or working your job, but if the positives don’t outweigh the negatives, it’s time for some soul searching and a new vision.

  6. Believe you are good at what you do. You might not be a master (yet), and there’s no need to worry about being “the best”, but you’re the only one who can do your work exactly your way. Believe the world needs you to do it.

  7. Remember there is always more to learn. A true master doesn’t need to prove herself to anyone, and is always willing to learn something new. You can’t possibly know it all, so check your ego at the door and stay open to who your surprise teachers might be.

  8. Be interested in others. Ask questions. Listen to the answers. Practice remembering as much as you can about what others say. Making someone else feel interesting is one of the best networking tools around.

  9. Be generous. With your time, your energy, your smile, your understanding and your kindness. When you do things for others with no expectation of return, others will wish to do the same for you. They’ll be more likely to want to spend time with you, hire you, pay you well or learn from you. (Note: being generous is not the same as being a doormat)

  10. Say thank you. To life, to your family, to your friends, colleagues, clients and mentors. Say thank you to the barista who makes your coffee, to the woman who is cleaning the public bathroom, to the driver who stops so you can cross the street. Carrying an energy of gratitude through your day and your life is a sure path to fulfillment and joy.

These 10 steps can take a lifetime to perfect. They are easy to write, and a challenge to live. But the path of mastery is a worthy one, even if the only thing you master is happily being you.

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Charyn Gant – Featured Member September 2013 http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/09/01/charyn-gant-featured-member-september-2013/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/09/01/charyn-gant-featured-member-september-2013/#comments Sun, 01 Sep 2013 07:00:23 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3087 How did you get started in business?

I’m just in the beginning stages of my biz. And I have actually tried a few times over the years to get my one-woman show off the ground, not realizing that I was completely missing a solid foundation from which to work from. I also didn’t know WHY I was doing what I was doing, which meant I basically ran around in circles with no direction. This time around, and it’s been about 12 years in the making with a lot of trial and error, comes the realization that I need help and a community to belong to so that I don’t feel like I’m going this alone.

What have been some of your biggest challenges and how have you overcome them?

My biggest challenge was myself, in finally accepting the fact that I need help and that I really didn’t know what I was doing. I have been very independent in the past and now I’m learning to be interdependent on others who know things I don’t. Joining WBMC was the biggest step I’ve taken this year and the next one will be signing up for the Strong Start, to set that foundation in place that I’m not spinning my wheels.

What is your big vision right now?

My big vision is about sharing stories and examples how we hold on to emotions in our bodies and how that affects our health and quality of life, as well as sharing tools that can be used to transform those emotions so we can thrive and enjoy life.

Tell us a little about your WHY and what it means to you?

I’m not totally clear on my WHY at the moment and I’m sure I’m not alone in this. At this point I’m using my vision as my guiding light until I get really clear about it in a session with Marianne. In the meantime, keeping my vision in the cross hairs continues to point me in a guided direction.

What would be a perfect referral for you?

Someone who genuinely wants to improve their emotional health, which in turn affects every area of their life. By being willing to confront old, unhealed emotions, shift perceptions and claim accountability for your life, the most amazing transformations can take place.

The 4 AgreementsWhat is your favorite book that has helped you in life/business?

One of my fave books in the last couple of years has been The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Four clearly written tenets that can really make life-transforming changes when you consciously apply them. They are deceptively simple, yet applying them daily in your life takes dedication.

What are three tips you would give to your fellow business owners out there?

Don’t try to go it alone. Find a community where others understand what you’re going through, where you can offer each other encouragement and support. Where you can meet, ask questions and collaborate.
Be willing to acknowledge you probably don’t know what you’re doing. The minute you can do this, a whole new world will open up to you to assist you and move you along.
Keep asking yourself WHY. If you’re doing something and it stops making sense about half-way through, stop ask yourself why you’re taking this action, why are you writing this blog post, why, why, why.
How has being a Momentum PRO Member helped you and what do you get out of your membership and any programs like the Strong Start or workshops like Her Story, Women’s Success Circle, Website 102 etc?

The tools that get provided as a result of being a PRO member have been invaluable for keeping me focused on a weekly basis. I refer to my 100% Next Step cards daily to see what’s next and to cross off what has been accomplished and love using the monthly calendar to flush out ideas. Participating in Her Story was an amazing experience, one I believe every member should do. It gives such validation to your experience and allows other women (& men!) to bear witness to a slice of your life, no matter how brief the story. Because I work FT, it’s difficult for me to listen live to the Monday Morning Momentum, so I like to go back and download them to my tablet and listen at my leisure.

Contact Info:

Charyn Gant, When we Listen to Trees

Web: www.whenwelistentotrees.com

Email: charyngant@gmail.com

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Momentum: Facing Fear http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/08/29/momentum-facing-fear/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/08/29/momentum-facing-fear/#comments Thu, 29 Aug 2013 23:43:39 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3095

Is this your story?

This last week I took a deep breath of life.  It was scary, exciting and crammed full of the unknown! I felt like I took that leap of faith we hear about so often in books and movies.  Like when Indiana Jones had to have faith the bridge would appear and just take the first steps.  I now know that when we take that leap of faith we breathe in and we hold onto it,  like a breath under water until we have no choice left but to surrender.   At some point you just have to trust, again, like we did with the first breath we ever took in our entire lives.  We have to trust that it will be OK and that there is a whole lot more air out there to breathe in.  We have to trust that it is safe to breathe.

In ‘manifesting change’ Mike Dooleys powerful how-to guide to create the life and dreams you want, Dooley gives us three simple steps to follow:

Step 1:  Visualize what you want so clearly using all your senses that you can smell, taste, see and almost touch it.
Step 2:  Take steps to move in the general direction.
Step 3:  Look for direction, synchronicity and signposts to help you on your way.

Without breath the steps we take to move in the general direction don’t take us anywhere. Fear takes our breath away and immobilizes us into procrastination or diversions.  Fear isn’t all bad though.  Fear is evidence that we are growing and expanding.  Fear is simply excitement without the breath. When we stop facing fear we die inside and eventually on the outside too.  Don’t get me wrong, I am talking about normal everyday fears.  I am not encouraging you to jump off the Empire State Building or cross Niagara Falls on a tightrope.  I am simply encouraging you to stretch a little out of your comfort zone, to get curious about WHY you keep putting something off and to bring a little more faith and trust into your business.

As you stretch it forces you to do three things:

1. Identify what you really want.  You have to zone in on what brings you joy, connects with your values and causes your breath to quicken and heart to race with excitement.
2. Take a deep breath and move in the general direction.
3.Notice when you are holding your breath so that you can let it go, surrender. Fill your sails full with your own breath, your Momentum and forge forward with the wind in your hair.

Fear comes up all the time with clients. The work we do together stirs things up and brings them to the surface so eventually we have to acknowledge their fears because they have nowhere left to hide.  As I work with a client to identify business goals, dreams and strategic action plans we create fertile ground for fear.

When Sara came to me I instantly saw the passion she had for her business in her eyes.  I see this with all of my clients although for some it takes a little coaxing to come out.  This is one of the key indicators I use to decide whether or not I would like to work with someone.  Sara lit up when she talked about her embroidery business and her vision of using her business to help cancer patients stay present in a time of extreme stress.  Like all my ladies she was full of compassion for others and her business was heart-driven.

Sara had fallen into one of the traps I am all too familiar with from personal experience.  She had made herself too busy to succeed.  By the time I finally managed to do a complimentary session with her, after several rescheduled appointments she had created a tornado of busy-ness for herself.  From my perspective it was easy to see how her busy-ness was getting in the way of her business.  During the session we identified many, many ways she was wasting her valuable resources of time, money and energy.  She admitted that in an attempt to save money she was driving 90 minutes each way to take a 2 hour class on machine maintenance.  This was five hours of her time every week that she desperately needed in other areas.

Even when Sara applied the learning to maintaining the machines at her shop it took her way longer, was very frustrating and the results were not even close to comparable to the service she had been using before. Could she become proficient in doing this service herself?  Of course! But is it worth the time it would take to get to that point?  What Sara was doing was making herself even more indispensable.  No one else in her small company would be able to do the service – only Sara.  Spending time in her business was taking away from precious time needed to work ON her business if her business is to succeed.  Michael Gerber in his book ‘The E-Myth Revisited‘ identified this as the #1 reason small businesses fail.  This is how busy-ness can literally make you too busy to succeed.

 

Stylist at a beauty salonDuring my session with Sara she had several big ‘aha moments’ like this and at the end of the session Sara decided she was ready to make a commitment to working ON her business and to do that she wanted to sign up for our Strong Start Package.  She needed to figure out the finances and promised to call me back in a few days to get started.

This is when fear began to slink in.  Days turned into weeks and quickly a few months had passed.  After I have done a session with a client or a prospective client like Sara I hold onto the vision they have shared with me, I can’t help it.  It’s almost as if an invisible cord attaches from my heart to their vision and I carry it with me, often with a stronger, clearer focus than they do.  Because of this it’s not unusual for my intuition to speak to me telling me to pick up the phone and check in with clients or for me to come up with business ideas and strategies for clients even when I am grocery shopping, taking a shower or driving my daughter to school.  Over a few days several times my intuition suggested I call Sara until it demanded I did.  So one morning as I sat on my deck staring at the hummingbirds swooping down to to the bottle brush tree I said to myself “OK…I’m on it” and I walked into my office and called Sara.

As is always the case when I follow my intuition, my call was received with a heart felt, warm hello from Sara.  I caught up with her for a few minutes and then asked her if she was ready to get started with the Strong Start Program.  This is when fear used the amnesia tactic.  Sometimes when a client does a session with me we uncover clarity and vision that has been buried.  We bring the vision to the surface and the client see’s the solution and action she needs to take with crystal clarity.  This activates the fear and if the client doesn’t take action fairly quickly the fear desperately tries to bury the clarity and creates amnesia.  Once I reminded Sara why she had wanted to do the Strong Start Program I checked in with her to see if she thought it would still be a good fit for her.  Oh my goodness “yes” she said thankfully feeling the grip of fear released from her.  That’s when we uncovered fears other tactic’s that had been keeping her busy, desperation and diversion.

As Sara was building her business on her own with no vision, spinning her wheels with no plan or consistency of action she had began to feel lost.  This confusion created a crack for fear to seep into.  Like a hermit crab the fear began to expand and make a home within this crack.  This is when the itty-bitty-shitty-committee began to squawk.  ”You can’t do this.”  ”You don’t have enough money.”  ”This isn’t going to work”. Sara began to hear the din of their voices escalating.  Then Sara met her friend Helen for coffee that week and this is where fear took a strong hold.

After not seeing her friend for several months Sara was shocked by how successful Helen had become.  She was driving a new Lexus and was excitedly telling Sara all about her trip to the Bahamas.  Sara wanted to hear more.  How had Helen shifted things so quickly?  Just a few months ago Helen had been desperately trying to make rent like Sara.  Helen told Sara all about the time share homes she was selling and how she had done so well she had won the companies all expenses paid trip to the Bahamas.  Sara’s mouth dropped.  Helen asked her if she liked to go on vacation and Sara had nodded in agreement.  A few minutes later Sara had plopped down $750 for the starter package and was now officially a time share sales person on her way to success, so she thought.

As I checked in with Sara on our phone call she sheepishly admitted this all to me.  The honeymoon phase was over and she was already beginning to second guess her new business venture.  I asked her if she was ready to spend time becoming masterful at selling time shares, to become known as a vacation specialist to her friends and network and to spend time managing and building a sales team below her.  That’s when the penny really dropped.  To make her new time share business thrive she would need to do all these things and to set her business aside.  Even though we were on the phone I felt the passion that used to light up her eyes disappear.  ”Oh my goodness what have I done?”  Quickly we turned it around.  I shared that most companies had a money back policy on the starter pack and that she may very well be able to get her money back.  She could turn over the client she had signed up to Helen and walk away from the business quite easily.  The question that really finalized this decision for Sara was when I asked her “what difference would it make to her embroidery business if she put in the same amount of time she had with the time share business on the last month?”.

How are you letting fear of success or failure distract you from giving your business your full focus?

Fear tries to hide, cover up and divert our attention.  When Sara committed to focusing on her business that is where we faced fear full on.  Sara began to cry and apologize for showing her emotions to me on the phone.  I gave her a warm hug down the phone and reassured her that there was nothing wrong with showing her emotion, In fact this is a safe space to do just that.  I then lovingly asked her “what are you afraid of?”  That is when the dam broke and her tears flowed freely.  After a few minutes she shared with me that she was afraid she wasn’t good enough.  She had taken a huge step here.  Sara, in her confession to me, had taken fear out of the closet and put it center stage.  Instantly she felt the fear relinquishing it’s grip and losing it’s power over her.

Sara was afraid of failure and it was stopping her from moving forward towards success.

Fear of not being good enough, failure or being flawed is one of the top four ways we get in our own way of success according to Gaye Hendricks in his book The Big Leap.  When I shared this with Sara she quickly saw she was not alone which shrunk her fear even more.  A few minutes later she breathed into her fear and before she knew it her fear had turned into excitement for the vision we were creating together and the actions she was going to take to finally succeed with her passion: her embroidery business.  It’s amazes me that each client thinks they are the only one afraid.  They feel alone and when the ladies come together in the Momentum PRO community they quickly see they are not.

The deep breaths we take in and out blow our ship forward towards the vision we see.  This is the way we expand out steps in the general direction that Mike Dooley encourages us to take.  One step, one breath at a time.

If you are looking to breath life into the vision of your business why not set up a complimentary business consultation with us?  We would be happy to help you identify and align with true north on your journey to success and to see of any of the resources we have to offer could be of service to you.

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Alana Sheeren – Aug 2013 Guest Post: Newsletters http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/08/15/alana-sheeren-aug-2013-guest-post-newsletters/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/08/15/alana-sheeren-aug-2013-guest-post-newsletters/#comments Thu, 15 Aug 2013 19:01:48 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3002 Everyone is expected to have a newsletter these days but there’s the stress of what to write about, how often to send and the emotional impact when someone unsubscribes.

How are you to incorporate this tool into your businesses so that it feels good and fun and like a true expression of yourself without taking everything personally? It can seem like an impossible task.

4 simple steps to the newsletter of your dreams:

  1. Make it fun: What’s your writing style and what do you want to write about? Start with what you like to read yourself. Do you like getting newsletters that are short and punchy? Long and thought provoking? What would make you wake up and say, “Yay! I get to write my newsletter today?” Think outside the norm and find a sense of playfulness, even if you’re in a serious business. If you’re having fun writing, your readers will have fun reading. Which means they’ll be more likely to read the next one.

  1. Find your voice: This might take some time and experimentation. Imagine that you’re writing to your ideal client – or if you’re still working on that – to yourself a few years back. Really talk to her. What do you want her to know? What do you want her to feel? And what’s the call to action? Give yourself permission to figure out where you feel the most authentic and then see what kind of reaction you’re getting from people. Tools like Google analytics, split campaigns and your website statistics will help you figure out what’s working best. Don’t feel discouraged if your current subscribers aren’t responding quite the way you’d hoped, especially if you have a small list. They might not be your ideal people and the more you write for that dream client, the more of them you’ll attract.

  1. Ask for feedback: This can seem terrifying but it’s one way to get the answers you want. Put questions in your newsletters.  Ask your readers what they want more of, or less of, or if there’s a topic they want you to cover. If you give them a reason to write back to you, they’ll know that you’re interested in what they have to say, which can make them feel more invested in your business and in you.

  1. Don’t take anything personally: This is hard when, in essence, you are your business. If you ask a question and get silence in return, ask different questions until someone engages. If you send a newsletter out and get a bunch of unsubscribes, take a deep breath and remember three things: they probably weren’t your ideal clients, you have no idea what’s happening in their personal lives, and you’re that much closer to finding your right people.

The statistic I like to remember is that one third of the people who find you will love you, one third won’t like you at all, and one third will be indifferent. The more you have fun, find your voice, and ask for feedback, the more you’ll get rid of the of the indifferent ones and make space for your tribe!

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Momentum: Bringing Your A-Game! http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/07/24/momentum-bringing-your-a-game/ http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/2013/07/24/momentum-bringing-your-a-game/#comments Wed, 24 Jul 2013 20:40:51 +0000 Managing Director - Marianne Emma Jeff http://womensbusinessmomentum.net/?p=3080 As women we are resourceful.  We can multi-task, we can prioritize and we can get it done.  In the midst of all of this however, we don’t always bring our A game.  Our A-Game is delivering what we do with the excellence, quality and standards that make our hearts swell and give us that exhilarating sense of fulfillment down to our core.  Our A-Game is what we do when we give 100% rather than just winging it and when we do it we are in the zone.

What gets in the way of our A Game?

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  • doing too many things at once (usually because or the next item below)
  •  trying to show how valuable we are
  • not saying “no” when we should and…
  • not having/allowing enough time to do it well
  • perfectionism
  • myths around having to work hard to succeed
We could look at this list above from our victim place and come up with a mountain of reasons why we have no control over theses things.  Or we can look at this list from our power place of responsibility and we can step into the drivers seat and bring on our A-Game.
You are already doing amazing things can you begin to imagine what would happen if you brought your A-Game?  If you did come from a place of powerful quality, standards, focus and responsibility you would be unstoppable, you would be irresistible and you would rise to the top like a champagne cork.

If you are ready to bring your A Game here are three tips to help you on your way:

1.  Refuse to settle for anything except your best work from now on!  That will force you to allow extra time, plan ahead and be present with what’s in front of you.  Then you will connect with spirit, truth and intuition spending more time in our zone of genius.
2.  Say no, concentrate on a few things and create space to do them really well.  Less is more and more is less.  We don’t bring more value by delivering lots of mediocre work .  It is small amounts of pure excellence that make us priceless.
3.  Commit to becoming a Ninja - learn to do whatever you are doing so well that you know it down to your core.  Doing it wrong and badly even repeatedly on your journey to light up your bulb is part of the process. Reading up and even more importantly practice, practice, practice every element of it till you can do it in your sleep.  No more stumbling into great work.  It’s time to train like a high performance athlete and break the sound barrier.

I see the star in you.  Now it’s time for you to step into it if you are ready.

Momentum PRO Membesr check out 5 Mornings of Productivity under “My Courses” at www.mywbmc.com it’s FREE and  you can learn how to bring your A-Game every day!

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Marianne Emma Jeff is the Managing Director and Head Business Coach at The Women’s Business Momentum Center.

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